You know what's really hard? Facing yourself head-on, and saying "Self, you're afraid of these five things," then proceeding to talk about them.
Just as a note - I don't have a ton of "physical" fears. I tend to lean very much on the idea that I am the Lord's daughter, and I'm immortal until my work here is done. That doesn't mean that I'll jump off a cliff or drive my car down the highway at 120 mph, but it does mean that I'm not incredibly afraid of what people can do to me.
The fears I do have are ones I have to face pretty frequently, though:
1)Snakes. I seriously have so much terror in my heart when it comes to these things - maybe it's because they are so incredibly unpredictable? They slither, and their entire body is basically made of joints, so they can turn in any direction at any given time!
2)Guns. They make me incredibly uncomfortable. Like if I see one, even if it's in a cabinet or something, with no other humans nearby, I just want to quietly walk backwards out the door. I live in Texas, where people carry guns around with them and in their cars, and I've had to face this fear frequently. Thankfully I've never had to face a person with a gun in their hand, and I pray I will never have to. I honestly have no idea what I would do.
3)Failure - and here we're talking specifically about failure in my own eyes. It doesn't really matter if someone else would look at my life and say I failed in certain areas. That already would have happened multiple times, honestly. I'm talking about looking back and saying to myself that I failed at something and never redeemed it. That would be a horrible day.
4)Not being liked - okay, so this one does have a lot to do with other people. I realize that I have been incredibly fortunate to have a life where I've almost always been well-liked in the circles I've chosen to run in. The more I've gotten older, though, the more I've realized I really don't like not being considered like-able. Yeah, it's happened, and I've dealt with it, but, if possible, I'd rather never have it happen.
5)Not being a mother - probably the biggest on this list. I've heard people say they want to get married because they're "afraid of dying alone" or something along those lines.
I don't know - that's not really my reasoning for wanting to get married. I have friends and family that love me and will be there for me, and that's not a big fear of mine. I do want to be married, and I do want to have kids. I want both of those things equally, and in very different ways.
Out of the two desires, though, the greater fear lies in not ever having kids.
And just for clarity's sake, when I say "having kids" I'm not really referring to the biological process of pregnancy and child-birth (though I think that would be a pretty awesome thing to experience, leading up to raising a child). More than anything, I want tiny people in my life who call me mommy, and ask me crazy questions, who will grow up to be adult people in my life who still ask me crazy questions, because they know they can bring me their crazy, and still be loved.
In a nutshell, if I don't ever have kids, I will always feel like there was some part of me that was denied life.
2 years ago