Tuesday, April 11, 2023
A Soft (re)Start
Saturday, July 21, 2018
For What It's Worth
- Important Truths
- Unimportant/Unnecessary/Distracting Commentary
- Important things that were left out
- Falsehoods
Living for the good opinion of others is a dead end street and will never satisfy.
- Debt is a burden (Proverbs 22:7 and Romans 13:8)
- God urges [commands] sexual purity (Hebrews 13:4)
- Secular universities teach against the God of the Bible and His ways (This is obvious to anyone who has gone to college at a secular university)
- Most young Christian women have not been taught to live in submission to their husbands (The biblical passage referenced here is most likely Ephesians 5, specifically verse 22. I think many young Christian women are aware of this verse, but have been taught to ignore it or misapply it. I'm also not positive I would agree with this particular blogger on what it means. I'll go into this in a little more detail later on.)
- Older women are called to teach younger women biblical womanhood (Titus 2:3-5 is referenced here, but I'm not sure I agree with her main definition of biblical womanhood - also something I'll discuss in more depth shortly.)
There are any number of reasons why staying at home would be preferable for a Christian mother, so if this were true, I might agree with it, but I don't believe it is. I haven't seen statistics on this specifically, but I do know the number of stay at home moms in the U.S. has been trending upward in the last decade or more, and, as far as I know, there has not been a corresponding downturn in women deciding to attend college.
(To be fair, this is one of those places where I'm not absolutely sure whether she's agreeing or disagreeing with this statement which was actually made by someone else.)
Here's what she's completely ignoring though - godly young women who go to college are not just sitting there with their mouths open, willingly swallowing whatever is placed inside. Perhaps some are, but most are weighing what is told them against the scripture, taking their questions to those who are older and wiser, and listening to the Holy Spirit within them, who teaches them to resist false teaching.
All I'll say here is if they're having trouble conceiving at that time, it has nothing to do with having gone to college.
An important thing to note here is that college does not equal career. If you want to talk about women putting careers before children, that's a different thing entirely. The argument she is putting forth is against women going to college, and that's what I'm speaking about here.
It may also be that she is equating going to college with accruing debt, in which case I could understand a concern that women would feel the need to work in order to pay off that debt and so put off having children. But the fact is, college does not equal debt either. I made it through a 4-year degree from a State University without any debt, and no, I didn't have a rich uncle who paid for it!
Take the trash out when it needs to be taken out
Inviting 5 people over when you live in a house with 4 other people means you need to cook a lot of food
You need spiritual mentors who will not only talk about scripture, but will enter into your daily life and tell you when you're neglecting things - it they don't find you, go find them
That, my friends, is biblical womanhood, and it is a shaping of the heart and mental attitudes that neither years of experience cooking large meals and working in a garden nor a college education will ever teach. We only learn biblical womanhood from the influence of the Holy Spirit in our lives, being an active part of a biblical church, and being willing to learn from wise older women.
Friday, June 30, 2017
Y'all, my husband bought me a faucet!
And it may be my favorite gift from him to date.
Let me just tell you the saga of the faucet:
As you may or may not know, we live in a house (a gorgeous house, might I add) that was built in 1927. It has been well maintained and relatively untouched since that time. (Read: original hardwood floors and some original bathroom tile and fixtures, beautiful woodwork throughout, many of the original windows. Eeek! Dream come true, basically, if you ask me...)
Obviously, though, since people have been living in it all this time, the kitchen has been "updated" multiple times, and is in need of a complete overhaul at this point.
It doesn't fit the charm of the rest of the house at all in terms of appliances and it's not the most practical in terms of layout, but it is functional.
Soooooo, we're not making any decisions about "big" things until we really know what we love and what works well for us as a family.
Enter leaky kitchen faucet in the first week of our marriage...
I dont know if it was because I was washing so many new dishes or what. (Thanks everybody who gave me beautiful dishware for my wedding! That was the most fun I've ever had washing dishes, and you may have inadvertently contributed to my new faucet as well!)
I was honestly secretly glad when the faucet started leaking, because it was far from being my favorite thing about the house.
In fact, I have a very distinct memory from the first time I washed dishes in this house, when we were still dating. I thought to myself at the time "this may be the most poorly thought-out kitchen sink situation I have ever experienced."
You're not convinced? Behold the evidence:
The faucet is centered over the small basin so that it barely reaches into the large one, and it's so short that rinsing things without banging them against the side of the ceramic sink is nearly impossible.
Unfortunately, we discovered that it wasnt really an immediate need - the leak was mostly fixable by replacing some piping through the cabinet below and just not using my sprayer. It wasn't a perfect, long-term fix, but it worked for the present.
I just adjusted my dishwashing practices and went about life as usual.
But a seed had been planted in both of our minds. We wanted a new faucet.
Now, if we were going to make the investment in a nice faucet, we needed to know what sink we would want in the eventual remodel, in order to know what faucet would go nicely with it.
I'll spare you that process for a different day, but, suffice it to say we ultimately decided on a ceramic sink.
Now, what faucet finish would you put with a ceramic sink? Very early on, my husband threw out polished nickel as, in a general sense, a finish that he really liked. Ladies and gentlemen, I'm ashamed to say I shot him down real quick about that one. I'd seen brushed nickel and liked that, but I was just not interested in a shiny version thereof, and he was certainly not interested in brushed.
Quite honestly, I dont think I'd ever seen a single thing finished in polished nickel. He tried describing it to me, but it just sounded like stainless, which I was not interested in. I might as well have plugged my ears and sang "la la la la la" I was so not interested.
Ultimately we settled on oil-rubbed bronze and did piles of research, but still couldnt make a decision. The sink we decided on has only one hole, so we had to get an all-in-one faucet, because there was no way I would be living for the foreseeable future without a sprayer. So, should we go with a pull-down or a pull-out? Do we want one handle or two? What should we look for to make sure it's built to last? What warranties are offered by what companies?
You get the idea. With my Father-in-law being in construction and my husband being a researcher, we covered it all.
(Of course that's a very loosely-used "we" - I was mostly, if not only, concerned with how it looked...)
Once we had a pretty good idea of what we wanted, we started window shopping, casually walking through the faucet aisle at any home inprovement store we stopped in.
You'd be amazed at how hard it is to find what you want when you actully know what you want. (And, you know, when you dont feel like spending six hundred dollars...)
But then, last night, we were at Menard's, picking up some electrical stuff, and my husband casually led the way to the faucets, as usual. We stopped at the bronze finishes, as usual, and there was one I actually liked the look of, but not a brand we had considered. We pulled the box, and my darling husband began his researching. So far so good, but we were both hesitant, having never considered that brand before.
We pulled a box from a more well-known brand, and began comparing. We decided on the first one we'd pulled, and turned to go. Then my husband noticed a marked-down box just sitting under the displays. He opened it (somebody had already done so before us, hence the mark-down), and we both fell in love.
Friends, you've probably already guessed this, but it was polished nickel. And? The most beautiful faucet I could imagine.
Just to make sure our instincts were right, we carried it over to the sink aisle and held it against a ceramic sink, and yes, it was a wonderful complement.
We walked (well, I might have skipped a bit) out of that store with our marvelous find, and I looked it up on my phone to see if it truly was polished nickel exactly, and of course it was. And while I was at it, I accidentally discovered that we'd just saved THREE HUNDRED DOLLARS off msrp.
Everything we needed was in the box, the faucet is spotless, and I couldn't be happier. I'm assuming somebody bought it online and returned it to the store? This store doesnt even appear to regularly stock polished nickel.
I guess it was just meant to be.
We brought it home and installed it immediately (as in, my husband installed it immediately - I sat at the kitchen table copying down a recipe for French Bread and handing him a wrench every once in a while, and you know what? My amazing husband finished installing that faucet before I finished my recipe.)
And here's the picture you've all been waiting for: my new, gorgeous faucet, centered on my sink with a ready-to-use sprayer!
We do need to plug those holes in our sink, and it is awfully shiny, and will show fingerprints like nobody's business, but I don't mind polishing it up every once in a while, and I did have to compromise by sacrificing my desire for the touch-on/touch-off feature, but I am so pleased with everything about this whole kitchen sink situation!
I guess the moral of the story is: listen to your husband - he's probably actually got really good taste.
And also, possibly: do your research and be patient, but when you see a golden opportunity, reach out and take it!